Writing Wednesday – Writing Blues

Quote and pic (C) Rambling with Rose

The above quote is sitting on my laptop and is a promise I made to myself at the beginning of the year.

Though it’s been a while since a post has gone up here, I can say that I’ve been writing daily in other forms and spheres of life. And though I can make excuses aplenty for why it’s taken me this long to get a post up, I won’t. I’ll rather write a full update later on this week to explain what I have (and haven’t) been doing recently.

Personal stuff aside, today’s Writing Wednesday post is to remind you, dear reader, to be gentle with yourself and your failures – and to stop holding yourself back.

Your harshest critics aren’t always out there in the world, and you’ll find that far more often they’re sitting in your head and holding you captive; saying you’ll never be good enough, that you don’t have enough time, that what you’ve done is under par and you should quit while you’re ahead, that you’re making a fool of yourself and no one will ever take you seriously. That you’re wasting your time and energy on something you’ll never complete anyway.

The writing blues will strike and though these thoughts are persuasive, it’s high time for you to ignore them, hard though it may be.

Instead, keep at it!

Even if that post or chapter you’ve planned hasn’t gone further than a scrawl on a scrap of paper, or come drifting back to you as a thought that keeps returning until you finally take notice of it, just relax. You’ve got this!

Carry on doing whatever project you’re stuck on, regardless of what life (and circumstances) throw at you, sometimes just by starting again, you’ll find you make time where you previously thought you had none. Commitments to yourself are as important to honour as commitments to others.

If time isn’t an issue for you, and instead you’re finding it hard to stay motivated, then find a writing group to join, a forum you can find inspiration within, a blogger or writer who encourages you to persist (either one you know personally, or someone you admire who compels you to go for your dreams). Go for a walk, take up a hobby, troll Pinterest, re-read your favourite novels, paint, dance, draw, act. Do something that will shake you up again and inspire you and give you back your enthusiasm!

After all, if you never try, or do and then give up half way, you’ll never succeed – and good or bad, life and writing is what you make of it.

Now go out there and conquer that next page (or project)! ^_^

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Hello March

Happy March lovely!

Hello March (C) Rambling with Rose

Can you believe we’re already three months into the new year? Time certainly seems to fly these days, so don’t forget to take some time out for yourself  to just breathe, if you’ve spent the past two months running around.

Where I stay, March heralds in Autumn and the changing leaves, cooler weather, coats and tights, hot chocolate, starlit skies, cosy blankets, crackling fires, and the last chance to make the most of the outdoors before the winter rains strike.

Which is why March to me is a time of quiet serenity and introversion, and is usually when I take some time to myself to reflect on where I am, where I’m going and what I need to do to get there. So long forest and beach walks followed by some quiet time at home to write are what I’ve got planned for the coming days.

As the start of autumn is one of introspection, and since that I’ve been playing around with PicMonkey, I thought I’d share a few holiday snapshots with you that I’ve added some inspiring quotes to (and to pat myself on the back a bit, the second pic below is my own personal quote and current mantra):

Be a reflection (C) Rambling with RoseCultivate a sense of serenity wherever you go (C) Rambling with RoseFocus on why it will work (C) Rambling with RoseIf you want to fly (C) Rambling with RoseThe voice of the sea speaks to the soul  (C) Rambling with RoseI know my own value - agent Peggy Carter (C) Rambling with RoseAwesome husband and quote (C) Rambling with Rose

If the person above looks familiar, it’s because it’s my awesome hubby – he models well, doesn’t he? ^_^

I hope you have a stunning, inspiring and serene day further – and I’d love it if you take 30 seconds to comment and tell me which quote (or pic) you liked best.

Pay it Forward

Hello lovelies,

While I’m battling a rather horrible bout of glandular fever, resulting in time off work due to the pain and swelling, it’s given me plenty of time to think about how blessed and lucky I am in general.

So, to do something to remind myself that despite all the recent tragedies in the world and South Africa, there is still so much love and goodness out there – and that we should never let it get to the stage where we believe the bad outweigh the good – I’ve chosen to participate in the “Pay it Forward” initiative; which actually mirrors my general attitude towards others pretty much 100%.

In case you haven’t seen or heard of this, here is the original Pay it Forward message below:

“After all the recent terrible tragedies that have happened and are happening, this world needs as much kindness as it can get. I’m participating in the ‘Pay it Forward’ initiative: The first five people who comment on this status with “I’m in” will receive a surprise from me at some point during this next calendar year- anything from a book, a ticket, something homemade, a postcard, absolutely any surprise! There will be no warning and it will happen when the mood comes over me and I find something that I believe would suit you and make you happy. These five people must make the same offer on their Facebook status. Once my first five have commented “I’m in”, I will forward this message to you privately, so that you can copy and paste it, and put it on your status, (don’t share it) so that we can form a web of connection of kindness. Let’s do more loving and nice things in 2015, without any reason other than to make each other smile and show that we think of each other. Here’s to a more enjoyable, friendly and love filled year!”

So for 2015, why not spread the joy and love yourself by sharing the above quote as your Facebook status – this way, you can see who amongst your friends is willing to take up such a great (and practically free) cause in spreading joy.

Wishing you wonderful Wednesday!

Why do You Write?

Hello lovely,

Has anyone ever asked you “Why do you write?”

Looking at it, it’s such an innocent question. Innocuous really. It’s along the lines of asking “why are you an accountant?” “Why are you a waitress?”, or “why are you a teacher?”. Four very simple words used to break the ice, but with such a hidden depth you could spend forever trying to respond.

You could, like I have in the past, smile and mutter that, “It makes me happy, it pays the bills, it’s something I’m passionate about, I want to educate people …”, and keep up the cliched answers that are expected. But all those responses always ring hollow to my ears not because they’re not true, but because they don’t truly encompass the scope of why I do what I do.

So to self disclose a little, I’d have to say:

I write to open myself and others up to possibilities. I write to inspire, to encourage, and to delve into my own psyche and character. I write to let loose the endless stream of thoughts and capture them on paper. I write to unleash hidden worlds and half-dreamed memories of impossible and unlikely things – to give them form and substance in a world that is increasingly interested in losing touch with the physical, tangibles of life – preferring to spend hours with the intangibles – in the form of watching imaginary things play out on a screen be it TV series, games, or the stock market.

Why do I write? I write for remembrance of better days and bitter days. I write to describe the beauty of life around me – the sunlight flickering across a duck pond as a snowy white marvel preens, then glides swiftly away, leaving only a solitary, sinking feather in it’s wake.

I write to capture the memories made – of hot chocolates and pine-scented walks in the forest in rain boots with a scratchy scarf tight wrapped against my neck but never once minding – happy in the beauty of nature and companionship. I write for remembrance of scrambling over boulders ungracefully in a bikini, only to come face to face with penguins at the beach who squawk indignantly at my laughter. Of picnics on the lawn as slightly warm soda is poured into a cup and cheese platters are passed about with Jazz music floating in the air.

I write to capture that sense of the rhythm pulsing through my body and soul, found echoing in the bass that causes liquids to ripple in clubs as entranced people dance the night away, alone but surrounded by others.

To remember that day, holding a parchment thin hand with a grip that slowly softens, allowing you to feel, with each ragged breath, the slowly slipping life force … until finally your hand is released as the ragged breathing stops, and the machine starts it’s monotone  beep…

I write to express feelings, emotions, and thoughts that I want to scream out at the top of my lungs – which civilized society would never allow, or to whisper those feelings in a half mumble as I’m curled up as small as possible, holding my knees, crying in the rain.

I write to express the beauty and agony of being alive. The endless stream of hopes and dreams – places left to uncover, cities and countrysides to explore, possibilities that stretch out endlessly.

I write to give a voice to amber eyes of wildlife born into captivity, to share their unspoken sorrow of never being able to push themselves past their circumstances of life – where they’ll be forever trapped, never free to roam as their nature calls to them to do. Instead they’re forced to watch a parade of small creatures pay homage to them as they dream of open spaces and endless plains.

I write to capture the restlessness of the wind whipping through the highlands, as the air freezes every exposed piece of skin, and every breath hangs coldly in your lungs as you laugh at the sheer joy of being alive.

I write to explain life in a murky green light, where fish fly as birds over your head, and larger creatures move soundlessly below your small, frail form which braves the uncharted and untamed oceans.

I write to feel connected. I write to bring joy. I write to be heard. I write to share my truth and perspective.

I write because it’s a part of who I am: a wild crazy, paradoxical, yet happy traveller who prefers to see the beauty and best in everyone and everything, while taking note of the harshness and calamities of life that makes those beautiful moments just that much more special.

I write because I have only one life – though I’ve lived thousands, and it could end in the next breath or a heartbeat. I write to remember the beauty, companionship, and simple pleasures.

And now that I’ve laid myself bare before you, share with me why you write! ^_~

My Dreams, Wishes and Goals for 2015

Hello lovely,

With 2015 giving us a fresh year to make our own, it’s time to set down a few resolutions, dreams, wishes and goals that I want to accomplish in the coming year. I know that most people tend to make promises to themselves, and they inevitably break them as the year progresses, but since my singular 2014 resolution was to travel more, and that was definitely accomplished, I’m confident I can continue this “be true to thine own self” journey I’m on in 2015.

For 2015, I plan to:

– Actively build up my ‘rainy day’ savings

– Be more organised and prioritize what’s important to me, instead of agreeing to 1001 different things and feel exhausted and frustrated in the end, because I’m not doing what I really want to be doing

– Continue work on Rambling with Rose; now I’ve started it up, I’m not going to abandon it like previous blogging attempts ^_^

– Do a weekly fitness routine – be it Pilates, kickboxing, kung fu, aikido or spending time hiking

– Entertain and have people over for suppers now that the house is coming together

– Finish decorating my little work space at home (pics to come)

– Gratitude is something I quietly do on a weekly basis, and it’s about time I share some of those – I’ve been toying with the idea of a “10 things that have made me happy” post roundup, as I’ve seen on numerous other blogs … though being honest, I’ll start it off as a “7 things that have made me happy” 🙂

–  Hang out on writing forums, since I had such a blast during NaNoWriMo (with writing, editing, and publishing my novel on the cards for June 2015)

– Indulge in a pampering treat every season / quarter – be it a massage (I adore massages!), eyelash tint, manicure, or facial – some TLC is needed from the professionals once in a while – an on that note, wear more colourful lipsticks ^_~

– Junk out, quality in – a wardrobe overhaul is needed (and items I no longer wear will be taken to a friends bi-monthly junk swap, where items not swapped are donated to charities around Cape Town)

– Knowledge is power, so it’s time to sign up for short courses which are within my budget, to get more well-rounded in psychology, writing, and whatever else takes my fancy  ^_~

– Let my friends and family know how much I love and care, by spending time with them

– Make time for movie nights – it’s been ages since I’ve actually set foot in a cinema (and hope to catch Mockingjay – part 1 in January at some point)

– No more junk food binges – though they’re tempting, tasty, and convenient, it’ll be better to spend more for real food like fruits and vegetable snacks to stay healthy and satisfied

– Organise – my spare room, writing spot, and diary for the year (and start a posting schedule) ^_~

– Publish the novel I created during #NaNoWriMo – since December, my novel has sat on 51,000 words and it’s about time to finish it off – hopefully about 130,000 words, to edit by June 2015, so I can publish it in July 2015

– Read more – I have a feeling my new Kindle will ensure I get some time to myself each evening to disappear into a novel before bed

– Spend more time with friends and family either in person, or with a phone call. Because being busy is no excuse

– Throw myself back into a maximum of 2 theatre shows in 2015 – I can’t spend another 6 months going from show to show (love it though I may) – as I now need free time to blog, write, and plan

– Understand myself a bit better – I’ve always loved psychology and the hidden motives as to why we do things – plus it’ll come in handy with my novel ^_~

– Vlog – I probably won’t do it consistently, but after watching a good friend (and 2nd cousin) of mine stick to a monthly vlog, I’ve been inspired me to give it a shot (so stay tuned for our upcoming mash-up)

– Write more – it’s time to ignore the lethargy that creeps up on me after a day of work, and instead spend at least an hour writing in the evenings. It’s also time to learn more fiction writing skills in general (and I’ve kick started this by sending an enquiry to UCT about their creative fiction summer class with Ron Irwin) ^_^

– YOLO – embrace it, plan for it, and LIVE 😀

– Zany fun – because life becomes boring if you’re always serious ^_^

That list is pretty long (I call it my ABC goals) and it all seems like quite a lot to accomplish and get through, but if I space the above out over the coming months, everything will be so much easier to achieve. I wrote a

🙂

What 2015 resolutions are you planning on?